The "not" funeral

When my uncle thought of his death which he had planned to bring on faster by drinking himself to death he would say he wanted no service at all. Well it is hard to honor a wish when family and friends want to gather. The long suffering funeral director was very patient with my drama family, he said we were quite entertaining. He has a neat old home with comfortable relics surrounding the house. It is called Starks Funeral Parlor. They were fantastic and above and beyond in compassion and patience. It was an awkward affair. There were all these side stories going on. My cousin I had never before meet who is 44 came from CA, she is so sweet. My other cousin I had not seen forever came from New York, so good to see her. We had not planned on doing anything but ended up having a family viewing one night and a friend gathering the next day and then a month later we all went to a pub with a sign on the door that read... Scottish, Irish, and Mormonish Welcome. The smoke was so strong that Teri and I ventured outside and sought a break at a local MacDonald's. It seemed a little strange to me that we were at a bar with alcohol flowing to toast a man who died from being an alcoholic. His main goal was to drink himself to death, which he accomplished. He would have loved the party lots of booze, friends and great music. My cousin Sean played with the band and I was really impressed, he did a great job! My Uncle had a so many friends, who all claim he would do anything for. I guess it was weird for me when I thought of how rude he had been to my mom and how uninterested he always was in anything to do with us. His friends said it is because we judged him because we were Mormon. That seemed silly to me as many of our family is not and we love them just the same. I guess I didn't really know him like all his buddies did. My mom is still crying about missing him she loved him so much. I wonder about the whole judgment thing, I think he judged us for not drinking, I think we made a judgement to not drink ourselves and I think we all loved each other. Maybe if he had not been so addicted things would have been different. He had not performed for years as the alcohol ruled his life. Maybe now he can be healed and have a clearer mind and find some sort of peace.