I got my very first cell phone in 2009. Okay Scott had bought me several others which I never used. But in 2009 our lives changed completely. We went form 10 plus years of working and living together 24/7 to Scott having a traditional 9 to 5 job away from home. We also we in transition and building our home and renting and moving and selling our old home so I needed to port our home phone to a cell so Arbonne clients would still be able to find me during the moves. I love any photos of Scott.
I wanted to take a moment and thank the family who made George possible. There are some I could not find photos of but I was able to get my parents Salinas mom and my 4 grand parents. Then I found on my moms side where George A comes form where his name is from Great, Great great, and great great great grandparents of George!
Scotts amazing mom and dad and niece came and met up with us. Seriously Scotts mom is an angle she is perfect. Kind, smart, funny, beautiful, warm, compassionate, she spends so much of her tie serving others be it Sir Optimist fighting human trafficking or friends who need help with tax questions to anti aging. I really look up to her and my hubby has the biggest respect for this woman. If you like Scott you can thank his mom who takes after. There is some of his dad too. His love for the outdoors and his constant joking and teasing we can thank Neal for. Thanks Neal. 
I have been putting this off. Seeing it makes it real. I sure do miss my Aunt Sue. My friend Mark made these for us for the service which was lovely:) We have had too many family funerals in 2011. Each is sad because I miss seeing them here and now. Aunt Sues was especially life changing as my world had to go on without my buddy. 
We are so excited to have three new members of the family. Steve married a beauty inside and out Kim and she has two amazing children. We went to AZ and were able to be present as they tied the knot. It is so fun to see how in love they are. I can't remember ever seeing a couple so in love. It was neat to see Scott be best man and try to top Neal at embarrassing toast with quoting the wedding singer. Evan Leah and I danced tons. The decor was out of this world and Kin did it all. She is patient brilliant an artist funny warm beautiful and we just love her. 
While we were in Arizona my Uncle Olaf had been close to death and Scott's parents were kind to let us borrow the car and go to him at the hospital. It was awful to see him on the Virge of death. He is tall strong and handsome and he seemed so tiny and fragile with barley a speaking voice. He told us that he prayed for the first time ever for his sweet Ilse. It was an hour each way to the hospital each day and the hospital was a zoo. It took a 1/2 an hour to get up the elevator and there was scary people all over and traffic and parking a nightmare. 
Another fun thing was seeing all Steves old buddies from college they were super happy for him and it was a great wedding.
Sometimes when I feel a little stretched thin I remember my roots. I never knew my Grandma Scharrier as she died the year before I was born. I have heard wonderful stories about her all of my life and I adore her two children. My Grandpa Scharrier I saw on an old video a few days back holding and talking to my little brother on Thanksgiving the year he was one. It would have been shortly before his stroke when He had a voice. I miss him. Then i think about my dad. He was larger than life and full of adventure. All of this helps me make it through the roller coaster of Aunt Sue.
We are back from another trip. We miss everybody in the fall as we travel so often. It is the one really busy time for Arbonne as everyone LOVES the holiday line and Scott is busy with High Cotton. We spent the first few days with my cousin Allyson and her family. I have always looked up to her all my life. She was the cool older cousin that I wanted to be. I would follow her around and then when she would get annoyed we would wait for her to leave and then sneak in her room. Yup we would touch her stuff and jump on her bed and pretend to be her. It was 
awesome to be with her darling little boys and fun hubby. They have a neat house and I just loved every minute. One night they spoiled us with whole dungeness crabs! Ally is amazing at deco and creating a mood. It was beautiful in the backyard with little flames to melt the butter and Jason helping me when I was squeamish with the crab insides. We went to this Delicious ice cream place that made me want to move there. They have a fun train set. We even went to church with them and I got to see Ally teach! She has great faith and a love for the scriptures and prayer. One day we went to the top of a mountain and there were huge creepy crawlers- yuck. The view was great. I will post up more about the trip soon!
" Hey bro- da blood in da watta da sharks is comin dis be da last ride" I was glad that the locals let Kelly in on some insider info. A lady smashed her face into the sand and her surf board and was bleeding bad so all the locals cleared out of the water. They noticed me white cousin Kelly and gave him the heads up. Kelly was non stop action the entire time on the island. There was no kick back and relax he was surfing, boggy boarding, walking, swimming, fishing, eating, climbing and dragging Teri all over the island. Never mind they have a tiny baby with them . Have baby will travel. Kevin is the most laid back baby I have ever seen. He cried 2 times the entire week! I sure love Teri she is one of my role models of charity. She is one amazing woman. I love Kelly and think it is cool we got to spend time together on the island thanks to Lynda and Neal!!! Kelly and I never knew each other were fishes. We both LOVE the water- maybe it is in our blood! Kelly kicked my butt on the sugar consumption. Scott could not believe someone could eat more sugar than me but Kelly won hands down. We wish everyone could have been there with us.
I wish I had taken more photos but some days I just enjoyed the day and forgot the camera back home. Most days we all had huge smiles. Lynda and Teri are 2 of the women I just admire and adore so what a treat to spend time with them both. They are both so happy, positive and beautiful. Kelly and I have great gospel talks and he and Scott just are great buddies. Neal is always teasing and saying the funniest things like "Nothing grow in Kauai here in this red dirt". He says this becasue there are no wild cucumbers growing onthe road side. Most days we all had flowers in our hair or around our necks. I guess they smell magnificent. I was a little sad to not be able to smell. We went to church over there and it was cool to see how faithful the people there are. Big welcoming smiles.
One of the coolest things to me in life are Priesthood blessings. This is not the only time in history when this awesome power has been on earth to bless and protect. God’s authority is given to men who are prepared and also are worthy. If that man is good and follows God he is able to serve those around him. It is wonderful since God can't be with us in person, we have the Holy Ghost and Priesthood power. It reminds me of a key. Within us is greatness and the Priesthood blessing can at times unlock or tap into or remind us of how import we each are. So I have been to several baby blessings and they are very special. The baby is given a name and a blessing. Each blessing is unique because each of us in unique. It is a treasure to be able to witness the tiny infant surrounded by love and protection given special blessings to help them on earth. What a lucky girl I am. Onw we did at our condo and combined it with a Szandi farewell. We sure missed Anth.
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I know it is not a secret that I do not like death. I also am aware that not anyone I know of-- likes death. But I think it is just so sad for the ones left behind. I just got off the phone with Scott's mom. His dad had called early this morning and we missed the call. Cheree passed away last night. They had just moved her into rehab from her long hospital stay. We were down with all the family over Mother's Day when Cheree had an open heart operation. My heart hurts for her hubby Ash, her sister, children and brother. Her only .jpg)
daughter is on a cruise with her family and I know she will feel so sad. Cheree was so calm and sweet. Lynda and Cheree are both really amazing women they are not like the 'typical woman' living in the world. They rise above pettiness and judgment and are very accepting and forgiving. You always feel so loved around them. Cheree and Ash are a perfect match. They both grew up in small towns and have lived in them their whole lives. In fact last summer they both about freaked out over the traffic in Salt Lake. They both like to stay at home, not travel, and not fly. I remember Grandpa Mark yelling at my when I developed the fear of flying "DO you want to end up like Cheree? Stuck on the ground in Cedar?" I remember Scott and Jeff were very silent and I was scared but in my mind I was considering there were lots worse things than being like Cheree- even stuck in Cedar. CHeree always was telling me how much she loved my laugh and how pretty I was. She told me how glad she was I forced the family to have reunions. Cheree talked about her grandkids and worried about everyone. SHe had a huge heart. The silver lining is Cheree is with her incredible mother Lucy. We all miss Lucy and now we will all miss Cheree too:(
This is the first Mother's Day I did not feel sad about not being a mom myself. I was focused on serving others and it is way better then feeling sorry for yourself. We celebrated Mother's Day in St. George. We all enjoyed a 2 hour break from the stress and laughed lots. Scott's aunt Cheree was having open heart surgery and we wanted to lend support. Scott's mom and dad drove over from Phoenix with Carli the dog. Carli has not been the same dog since Cami passed away and can not be left alone. We took turns waiting outside the ICU with Carli. My mom is also down there so we stayed with her. She looked beautiful but I can tell she does not feel good. Then my moms brother Uncle Denny who had the recent heart attack and his sweet wife Aunt Susan who is fighting rectal cancer let us use their home on Mother's Day to make a special meal for all the family in town. I have never done a big holiday meal by myself and usually bring store bought food to family events so this was a big deal for me. I wanted everything to be extra nice as everyone was suffering so much. My mom invited her dear friend Shirley to join us who is one of the neatest people I know and her friend Jen. Scott's uncle Ash, Cheree hubby and their daughter Michele came too. How blessed we felt to have both moms in the same place with us for Mother's Day and that Aunt Susan, Michele, Shirley were with us too. Having CHeree out of ICU would have made things perfect. Aunt Susan's paper chain from Tom and Liz is getting shorter marking the treatments being over with faster-- yipee. I forgot to get photos of the people! I did get some of the meal:) I took notes and made a list of the order to prepare each item. It worked great. Scott had to come to my rescue as I left the sour cream and cheese at my moms house across town. He is a gem and never complains at my mishaps which can be frequent. I love him. Here are my notes to remember for next time....jpg)
Here are a few other memories from our trip. 
moose. 8. Going to Grandma's grave at Zion and how Carli laid on the headstone. 9. Seeing how compassionate and calm and cool Michele was under the pressure of ICU. 10. being able to sign Cheree's heart pillow. 11. Ate at the new Pizza Factory with all the gang. 12. It snowed on our way home- in May snow... what happened to the global warming? 13. Listened to Phantom on the way home with Scott. 14. Celebrated our 13th wedding anniversary amid the chaos. 15. Glad that Mason and Scott could give Priesthood blessings. 16. Marianne in the ICU- she is an original- good luck with you eye operation n Wed. mom:) 17. the family that ate all the food in ICU and never washed their hands and how Missy started to tell them off and I don't think they spoke English or pretended they did not understand. So I may not be the best person in the family under pressure:) 18. Lynda reminding me that we each have a purpose on earth and God decides when it starts and ends-- that we must endure. 19. Neal gave us awesome produce:) 20. Ellen gives great hugs:) 21. Boyd got a huge deer I'm not excited about it but everyone else was. 22. Everyone telling Ted stories until we cried form laughing so hard-- I miss you dad:)
I loved how Grandma had the same peach lipstick she has worn since I can remember. All my cousins gave wonderful talks, Sean even played and sang. I got to hold little Tracy the whole time which was delightful for me-- what a sweetie he is. I also loved thinking back over all the wonderful memories:) She will be missed but boy was she loved. It was neat to see how much all the grand kids live Aunt Susan and Uncle Denny. We are still waiting for Teri to be rushed to the hospital, but what a blessing to have her be able to be around still for this. We are blessed. I told Aunt Susan I will come for Mother's Day and cook for them. Since Aunt Cheree is ill, Scott's folks will be down there plus we can see my mom. I missed Anthony this day. They read something he had sent in but it is hard to not have him near us. I think what I learned most from Grandma Woolums was her gift of being present. You always felt like nothing else mattered but you, while talking with her. She had the sweetest voice and kind eyes and a sweet tooth:) Yeah that she is reunited with her Charles once again.
I told Aunt Susan "Mungo is dead. Grandma Woolums is dead. Aunt Susan (you) are in the middle of Chemo and radiation, Uncle Denny had a heart attack, I have mono, Scott is still undiagnosed and ill, Anthony is not sleeping, Salina can't explain the extreme fatigue she has, Mom has MS, Teri will start bleeding at any moment, Kristin doing chemo, Amy doing chemo. I feel our family is a little bit cursed" She scolded me and pointed out that we are a very blessed family. That God is aware of us and that we will make it through this. OK I should be the one to comfort her-- her mother just died, she could face death, her hubby might also and her daughter... yet the rock in my life is comforting me. Scott has been crying non stop all day and I am Jekyll and Hyde swinging back and forth from indifference and unbearable grief. I'm even bit off Ben's head last night at church- because he teased me. This week has been emotional. When you perform it can be a roller coaster as the audience adds in a new dynamic and you pass the point of fixing things and learn to go with the flow of live theater. SO add in real drama and it pushes this little Missy to the brink of heartache. Luckily for me I have amazing friends who have a love for the Gospel, me and animals. Grandma's death they were not even going to tell me about until the play closed. Afraid after all the tears over Mungo I would not be able to pull myself together for the play and let down the stake. Scott slipped up and I 
felt awful that I might not have been able to express sorrow about Grandma because I'm not grown up enough to handle everything going on right now. She was so sweet. I loved the birthday cakes she made and that she was always kind and attentive to me. She loved Scott too. She has been lost without Grandpa since his death and her health has been very poor, so at 87 it was a mercy to take her home to God. The funeral is on Sat since Aunt Susan can't travel due to the treatment schedule until then. Mungo has not been himself for about 2 months. Looking back, we see this as it happened. It snuck up on us until this past week. If you didn't get to ever meet Mungo- he was special. He was more of a lap dog than a cat. Never stand offish always loving, talkative, friendly and curious. You know what he was to me? My boy. My dream of having something to love and mother in the form of soft fury love. I have been flooded with memories over the last 72 hours. 
1. When Kaden fell off the slide and had a cast and had to drag himself along on the floor somehow Mungo could sense he needed to hold and love him and allowed it. Mungo was not to excited about children because they move fast and can be unpredictable-- but with Kaden he was really sweet. During one of Kadens sleepovers with us Kaden woke up with Mungo wrapped around his head. Kaden whispered to wake up me "Missy, Missy -- look at my fury hat" Kaden had a huge grin as his eyes rolled back and forth taking in the site of all 17 pounds of Mungo loving wrapped around his whole head. Mungo was giving Kaden kisses and purring. 2. When our niece Lauren was visiting he jumped right into her lap and slept with her. I think she was old enough to not look like a small child anymore and she is very good with animals. Lauren was not feeling wel and Mungo had this great love for others who were suffering. 3. The last time Kelsie slept over he really loved her too, she was not thrilled about all his fur- but he loved her. 4. He always greeted me at the door. He would come down the stairs like a bunny and then start talking like crazy and heading me towards his treats. HE LOVED HIS TREATS. I have felt GUILT every time I took a drink this week as my sweet boy could not even drink a lick of water. He was parched and had also quit eating. 5. He stayed right with me all the time. When I worked late right in my lap at the computer. 6. He loved stretching in the sun and always had his little paws crossed. 7. He loved to fetch and chase a lazer beam Scott would play with. 8. He LOVED Scott so much. 8. How he was so frightened of plastic bags and thunder. 9. How he would mope around when we got out the suitcases he hated us to leave him he did not like to be alone. 10. This soft little snore he had while sleeping. 11. How he fit perfrct into the nooks of my lap and arm. 12. How he helped me through Anthony moving. 13. He loved dark pants and greeeted anyone wearing black by rubing hair all over them- it made me laugh. 14. How stuborn he was he culd dead weight like no other animal I had ever seen If he didn't want to do something he did not do it.
Missy, Matt and I were really wondering what information there was about pets in the afterlife. I found this article. It doesn't say a whole lot, but I think it gives some references that would be useful to find out more. I know that there's nothing that I can to to fix things, but I hope the answer to the question: "Do animals have spirites and are they resurrected?" gives you at least some comfort. It was also comforting to me that many of the answers came from prophets. If there's anything we can do to help, let us know. Love, Hilary Joy 
A number of questions have been asked concerning the place of animals in the gospel plan:
Each day my cute director has been having my hair done a different way, it has been really fun to play and try all different type. I love being a girl I love all the frilly, sparkly, femine stuff. I think it is so fun how the little kids in the cast tug on my skirt to tell me I am "Perty". They are ADORABLE! I think the show went way better than we had hoped. I was in shock that it went well as our final dress rehearsal was a bit rough. Here are a few photos. My super sweet Charrier now Martin cousin Amy came. I loved having another Charrier in the same building as there are not many of us. She had a very long drive and it meant so much to me that she 
would come all that way. I even got to give her a couple of hugs. I also played a break a leg message from Anthony several times befreo I went on- I MISS HIM! My other cousin and his wife came too- I snuck in a family song just for them:) My mom will be arriving from a 4 hour drive which is so sweet as she is not feeling the best. She has never missed a play I have been in and there have been many over my life. She is a wonderful support. Scott took her to her favorite restaurant Italian Village where she flirted with police officers. The mechanical rat scared me as I had not seen it before and it just roams at random times. During one scene Junior, Fairly, and Sue and I all missed entrances which threw Sarah off and she covered good but it was funny. Junior kept firing his gun, at everything. It was a fun night.
